Are you a Ride or Die Chick?

I wasn't going to comment on this tragic situation but after a few days of mulling it over I have decided to speak on it. 

I was on Facebook a few days ago when one of my facebabes (that's how to I refer to all my facebook friends) posted a picture of a gorgeous woman. I thought to myself "so pretty!". After a millisecond I took notice of the photo pic stitched right beside this gorgeous woman. It was a picture of a brutally battered woman. "Absolutely horrid!" I thought to myself as the neocortex part of my brain put two and two together. Both pictures were of the same woman. This photo was posted by a young aspiring model who survived domestic abuse from her now ex-boyfriend. 

According to her post this sorry excuse for a man had jealously issues and was constantly accusing her of cheating until one night she was kicked out of a moving vehicle, beaten & dragged. As a result, she was left with scars that extend down to her chest, one of her shoulders completely skinned, some permanent scarring, a bruised rib cage, neck and muscle damage. As a way to speak out against domestic violence and convey her triumph, she posted the photo on Instagram telling her story.

I think about the countless women I personally know that have been in a domestically violent relationship or in any type of abusive relationship. I think about the endless excuses given to mask the dangerous situation that they are in. 

"He loves me" 

"He needs me" 

"If I just did this he wouldn't be that way" 

"I made a vow for better or for worse" 

"You don't know him like I do" 

"He's not always like this... He's different when it's just us" 

"I know I can make him better... I know I can make him change"...

If any of this sounds like something you have said I plea with you to GET OUT of that relationship A.S.A.P. 

As women, most of us are "Ride or Die Chicks". When we love, we tend to love hard. Loyalty is one of our top priorities. We want to be there for him no matter what. We make promises and sacrifice all we can in order to make sure we are holding him down. And maybe if he sees how hard we love, he will love us back just same or maybe even more. But if you are not being loved the way you should be, if you are being abused in any way GET OUT. And the abuse doesn't even have to be physical. If he's hurting you emotionally, physically, verbally or spiritually GET OUT. This world is huge! He is NOT the only man in the world that will want to be with you even if he's told you that before. There will be someone out there that will love you whole heartedly and never abuse you. But in order for him to find you, you have to be able to live another day. 

Fortunately this was that woman's first and LAST time being abused. In this sense I'll pass on being a ride or die chick.