Tracee's Got Something for the 3B - 4C Curls

As a fellow member of the natural hair movement I was elated when I received the news that actress Tracee Ellis Ross has thrown her natural hair care hat in the ring and is launching her very own line. Titled Patten, according to Ross this vision has been a 20 year dream and 10 years in the making. Writing her first brand pitch in 2008, Ross took her time and worked with a team of chemists for 2 years to formulate what she finds as the perfect combination of safe ingredients to cater to the 3B - 4C audience. After testing over 74 samples on herself along with her panel of different hair types, Ms Ross finally landed 7 products as an introduction to the Pattern collection.

What is also exciting about this brand is the sizes available for purchase. One of my main issues personally with natural hair products is the small sizes. Usually after two washes I need a whole new bottle of shampoo conditioner. Ross provides the option of large, refillable travel sizes and reasonable pricing to make Pattern affordable and accessible. Now the question is will all melanated hair types love it? We shall find out when Pattern makes it’s debut on September 9th. I for one will be following up with a review and photos of my results.

For more information and to get updates on the launch, visit https://patternbeauty.com

-Love & Light my Rising Roses!

GOODBYE JOB, HELLO CAREER!

Sweater Dress from www.shopgesphania.com

For years I dreamed of the day I would leave that 9-5. That corporate hustle working for some anonymous millionaire. I would go into somewhat of a progressive trance, envisioning my last day. How I would walk out humbly but internally would be doing back flips. Well my Rising Roses, that day has finally come. This lady right here is an official full time entrepreneur.

It has been a long time coming.

Days, months and years of waiting for the right moment to take that leap. The perfect strategy to execute. I was patient. I waited, waited some more, and became comfortable in just waiting. Until it hit me that the right moment would never come and there's no true perfect strategy. You just have to make a decision and go with it.

I started packing my desk weeks ahead.

My spirit was pulling at me and screaming "time is up Gess! The time is now!" By the time the decision was made, I didn't even need one box for my things. I just had my jacket, my purse and the huge grin I was attempting to hide as I walked out of that building. The building that I had no future in. The building many of my now former co-workers claimed as their own, using phrases like "We have made 2 billion this year". While in my head I always would rebuttal, "No THEY have made 2 billion this year".

I'm not made for the 9-5

Not that there's anything wrong with those who do love to work for a company. Companies would fail without employees. Nothing would get done. People would hate speaking to an automated system and the world would probably blow up in anger and chaos because of it. So I have much respect for the 9-5ers.

For those like me who want to march to the beat of their own drum, I encourage you to go for it. Whatever you're passionate about and want to share with the world, go make it happen. There isn't a perfect moment to seize the day. You only have one day that's yours at a time. Tomorrow may be too little too late.

What am I doing now you may ask?

• I am continuing to build my fabulous fashion website www.shopgesphania.com 
• I am officially a certified wedding consultant (your girl was low key in school) and plan to use this passionate skill to further build our Bridal Boutique Storefront and wedding decor service www.susesweddings.com
• I also will continue to let my artistic side flourish as the 2nd photographer for our Production business, QREV Production

Does this make me a serial entrepreneur?

Nevertheless, I am going for all that I love, all that I look forward to waking up to, all that is worth my time. It's about living your BEST life. Do not settle for less. I've said this so many times and I will continue to remind you to keep striving towards the accomplishment of all your DREAMS.

So I say cheers to living your best life. Go live it. I believe in you!

Love & Light

Do You Play Build-A-Man?

Dear Rising Roses, have you ever played "Build-A-Man"?

In the dating game as a woman, I have observed one common mistake among many of my fellow sisters. We meet a man that we may be interested in, make the decision to date after getting to know him for a short period, immediately recognize what we like about him, and make it our mission to change what we don't like about him. This "I'm a fix him" mentality has to come to an end.

In the "fix it" relationship we start to invest. Give all of ourselves and sacrifice with the hopes that this man will become the prince charming we have been looking for with a little... or a lot of our help. We groom, invest, pay off his debts, and show him how great of a wife we are though ring-less (side eye). And sometimes all that hard work we put in starts to pay off. You see he's changing, improving, excelling... everything is seemingly great... Until it's not. Until he tells you you're not the one. Then a few months to a year later he's married off to another woman, being the great man that YOU built him to be... but for someone else. I know some of you can tell me some stories of this exact situation you or one of your girlfriends went through.

This coming new year I challenge you all to stop playing "Build-A-Man". Instead of focusing on how you can improve a potential mate, set your sights on what you can do to improve yourself. Think about it... You spend all this time completing him to your standard and when he has reached that standard and looks to you, are you even meeting the same criteria? Then you become surprised when he looks to his left and sees a woman who is complete all on her own. Your focus should be working towards being the best version of you that you can be. Your potential mate doesn't need you to complete him or vice versa. We should be complete without the need of a man's companionship and our mate should be a compliment to our completion.

I'm NOT saying you should be selfish in your relationship. Just do not consistently do for someone that they can clearly do for themselves. It will cripple you both in the long run. Instead, be each other's motivation and encouragement. Be that push for each other to get things done. Set goals and check in with each other towards the completion of those goals. Challenge each other towards progression individually and as a couple. Doing it this way you will be more so grateful for the growth instead of bitter in the case things do not work out.

And if you're in a situation where you are already in the middle of the Build-A-Man game, it's never too late to hit the "game over" button and start the Build-Each-Other version.


Love & Light Rising Roses

The Importance of Sexy: What Every Woman Needs To Feel

Jacket: www.shopgesphania.com Photo Cred: QREV Production

What is it about being sexy? That moment when everything about you is just on point and has you feeling some type of way. When a woman has that "I'm sexy" moment, her walk is different. She marches to the beat of a different drum and can't anyone tell her otherwise. Why is it important for a woman to feel sexy? In a system where society is over sexual, it is a challenge for a woman to express and explore her sexy without being labeled as promiscuous. But what is sexy really? What if I told you it's more than what meets the eye initially?

Being able to feel sexy doesn't necessarily mean flaunting your intimate areas with a front row seat audience. Sexy is also a moment of self acknowledgement. Being aware and appreciative of your natural beauty. Being conscious of the power and influence we have as women because of our sex appeal, and using that power to positively influence others. For example, naturally society tends to give more attention to attractive people than those they find less attractive. As a woman, you automatically have the attention of the opposite sex. Because you are aware that your appeal commands this attention, there is a possibility of having an impact on those that find you aesthetically pleasing. Feeling sexy exudes confidence, self esteem and a unique energy that can permeate one's surroundings.

A great way to hone into your sexy is taking time to pamper yourself. And I'm not just talking about bubble baths and spa days (though those are great too), I'm also referring to pampering your insides by eating healthy and exercising. Pampering your mind by reading books (NOT of the 50 shades variety). Pampering your spirit through prayer and meditation. Being aware of current events and what's going on in this world. It is important that your inner self compliments your fabulous outer appearance.

To be a well rounded woman that works on her being in every aspect, you will find confidence encompassing that woman. She will no longer have the desire to put forth the effort of sexiness for she is sexy and she knows it. In turn she will know how to utilize her sexy to push her agenda in all avenues.

So now that you have a better understanding, I would like you to look at the areas of your life lacking that sexy spark. Is it your physical health? Your mind? Hygiene? Physical appearance? Whatever it is, work on it, nurture it and use it to it's highest positive potential.

Love & Light Rising Roses

Update: NEW Season NEW Arrivals! ShopGesphania.com

It's been about 3 months since my self titled fashion website was launched (insert happy dance here). I have been a busy bee since then connecting with vendors, scheduling photo shoots and just learning along the way. With the fall/winter season here I have just added some new items!

During this season I like to dress a little darker. Solid dark blazers are my go-to add on. I've added both Navy and Wine blazers to the collection. You can rock them with jeans and a simple tee, add flair to your business attire over a black blouse and slacks, or throw it over a mini dress for a night on the town.

Following my collection, you will soon notice my love of jumpsuits. I choose a Jumpsuit when I don't feel like figuring out what top should go with what bottom. It's a complete outfit in itself and all I have to focus on is what shoes to wear with it. There will always be one or two jumpsuits in each season. My new jumpsuit love is the Bond Jumpsuit. What pulled me in was the one side lapel! Gives that "I'm holding a blazer over one shoulder look but I'm so not". Fits in all the right places! I don't see this jumpsuit staying available for long. I'm already selling out of some sizes.

I think my favorite add of this season's collection are the Ora Dresses. Comes in three colors: Wine, Nude, and Black. I love the fit and solid material. Two elements of this dress pulled me in. The first is the Front & Back Half-Wrap Overlay. In my transformation from being a skinny mini to "Slim Thick", I have acquired a new ASSet (pun intended), my booty. Some dresses make it look too accentuated so the Half Wrap tones it down but still gives that slight sexy appeal.

There will be more styles to come! With winter approaching we will be entering the season of SPARKLE so look forward to that soon!

As always thank you for taking the time to read and make sure to show me some LOVE in the comments section and on my LOVE WALL (<---click there) on my fashion site (I'm kind of bummed cause I moved the wall to a different section and didn't know that would delete ALL the previous comments... :( !... BUT nonetheless I appreciate all the encouragement I've been shown thus far! It means so much!

Dream Big
♥ Gesphania

Calling It What It Is: Cultural Appropriation Problems

Photo/Graphic Design Cred: QREV Production

"Love your wild hair look", "It's messy but it looks so cute on you", "You need to tame those tresses"... Reactions to my hair in it's natural state. The comments did not bother me much until the other day scrolling through my timeline I see a video titled, Beautiful Texture. The video is showing a tutorial of how to get the natural hair look for people with straight hair, specifically, white people.

I sat and watched as a white stylist dampen, spray, and wind the model's hair tightly around pins, added more spray, pressed each pin down with a flat iron, and set to dry. The end result was what was described as a "Zig Zag Twist". My side eye intensified as I thought to myself, that's a braid out. You know, when black women braid or twist their hair and pick it out. No chemical manipulations needed.

This lead to me thinking more about cultural appropriation. How many instances in my life I've witnessed or have been subject to white society creating a negative perception of black culture until they adopt it as their own and present is as something trendy. Something they supposedly thought up all on their own (see my It's Not A French Braid post). From our full lips, curvy figure, hairstyles, music and fashion, they all have been re-presented in some way to appease white society.

Some of you may say, "well black society appropriates white culture as well. Take relaxers and straight weaves for example". My answer to that is for generations, it has been beaten into black people (literally in some cases), that their natural beauty, their culture, their sense of identity is not accepted and in order to be viewed as somewhat acceptable, they must conform to the ways of their oppressors. This reality is so deeply rooted that it still affects us as a whole today.

Now we are in a time where slowly our eyes are being opened to the beauty of our culture. Black women are relaxing less and allowing their hair to grow in it's natural state. We are tapping into our roots and exploring head wraps. We are taking over social media with hashtags like #BlackGirlMagic #BlackGirlsRock #MyBlackIsBeautiful. We are researching our history and learning to love ourselves. It seems the more pride we attain and convey, the more our culture is appropriated.

To be clear, I have no issue with white society admiring and participating in black culture. Something so beautiful should be shared. My issue is when our culture is taken and disguised with a white stamp of approval. Just give us our recognition and call it what it is. No reinvention is needed.

Kind Regards